Condition · Self-Worth
Build a kinder relationship with yourself.
You speak to yourself in a way you'd never speak to a friend. You shrink to keep others comfortable. You feel like a fraud even when things are going well. None of this is your fault — and none of it has to stay.
Matched with a therapist who specialises in inner-critic, perfectionism and self-esteem work.
Understanding it
Where low self-worth comes from
Self-worth is shaped early — by family, school, culture, and the messages we absorbed about what makes us 'enough'. Therapy helps you trace where it began, understand how it's still operating, and gently rewrite the rules.
- A harsh inner critic that's running most of the time
- Difficulty accepting compliments, love or rest
- Shrinking your needs, opinions or feelings to fit in
- Comparing yourself constantly and coming up short
- Tolerating things in relationships you know you shouldn't
- Achievement that never quite feels like enough
- A quiet sense that there's something wrong with you
These patterns can shift — slowly, but really. Therapy is the most reliable place to do that work.
Signals
When to consider therapy
Any of these landing regularly is a signal that support could help.
- You feel like a fraud, even when you're succeeding
- You apologise for taking up space
- You stay in jobs, friendships or relationships that diminish you
- You can't let yourself rest, enjoy or receive
- You want deeper change, not surface fixes
- You're tired of feeling 'less than'
The work
How therapy helps
Tailored to you, but broadly the shape of the work looks like this.
Step 1
Trace the origins
Understand the family, school and cultural messages that shaped how you see yourself.
Step 2
Work with the inner critic
Identify the voice that tears you down and learn to answer it with something kinder and truer.
Step 3
Build self-compassion
Practical tools for treating yourself with the same kindness you'd offer a friend.
Step 4
Worth in relationships
Learn what to ask for, what to expect, and what's not OK to tolerate.
Modalities
Approaches we use for this
Your therapist tailors the work to you — these are the modalities most often drawn on.
Psychodynamic Therapy
Depth work that explores how early experience and relationships shape you now.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
Practical, structured, focused on the thoughts and behaviours keeping you stuck.
Person-Centred / Integrative Counselling
A warm, non-directive space to be met without judgement and hear yourself think.
Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT)
Learn to unhook from difficult thoughts and take action toward what matters.
Your team
Therapists who work with this
Sana Fatima
MBACP, MSc. Psychology · Founder & Integrative Therapist
Founder of MySafeTherapy. Warm, integrative work for anxiety, trauma and identity.
£120 / session
Get matchedSamantha Cotterill
MBACP · Trauma Therapist & Counsellor
Trauma-informed, relational therapist with 15+ years supporting recovery from trauma, sexual violence, domestic abuse, anxiety and depression.
£120 / session
Get matchedDiane Stewart
MBACP · Person-Centred Counsellor
Person-centred counsellor offering a warm, non-judgemental space for anxiety, trauma, burnout, relationships and low mood.
£60 / session
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